Friday, January 31, 2014

World Hijab Day Count Down - My story

It's almost World hijab day and so I thought I'd share my story and feelings.  In 2009 after my husband and I got married I started covering out of respect for my husbands new found religion, Islam.  Well 2 short months after we got married we had a death in the family which made me look at things in a whole new light.

In September of that same year I saw the light (noor) as it were and came into Islam.  From that day forth I took great pride in my hijab and was very proud to wear it.  Being that I had worn it prior to this date I was used to the weather, looks and questions (Aren't you hot?, So what are you a muslim?).  

We (my husband and I) had a 4 year old little girl at the time and we had just put her into an Islamic School. (Here's where the story gets interesting and I urge other sister's if you think about asking or speaking up, Don't! )

In the interest of trying to get our daughter used to wearing the hijab early we bought her a few to wear to her "Islamic" school.  I know Allah (SWT) doesn't require this until after puberty so we never stopped our daughter if she complained of being hot and took it off.  Or took it of for no real reason and left in the car, at school or home.
1) However the Quran teacher felt the "need" to inform me that it was un necessary for her to cover at such a young age.  I'm thinking to myself I may be new to this, but my husband is well versed in his 2 years of study he had before I even thought about converting.  I let it go, she's just trying to help.
2) Fast forward 2012 I've already had my second daughter and my son who as an infant is at home with daddy.  I go to HEB and while picking out veggies I get stopped by a "Muslim" sister (w/o hijab in a t-shirt and shorts) telling me how beautiful my girls are, but "you do know they don't have to wear the hijab right".  Yes, I do.  "And you still make them wear it?"  I don't make them wear it.  "Ok" and she walks away.  Wow, ok.
3) Fast forwarding again to 2014.  I'm in la la land thinking that's over.  As I'm putting my 1 and 3 year old in the basket (double seaters at HEB, I know HEB again, but different location).  I get them in the basket and just as I'm about the back it out to go in.  I get cornered (literally; between her and a wall) by a "Muslim" sister in a mini dress and you guessed it NO HIJAB.  Trying to explain to me that my girls don't "have to" wear that yet.  I tell her I know that I don't make them.  Especially the little one, she's been putting on hijabs since she was between 1-2 and she will pitch a fit if you try to get her out of the house without it.  The older one says she wants to look like mommy because mommy is beautiful.  She says ok, but doesn't leave it at that.  She then starts to test my islamic knowledge.  Asking which prayers I do (I'm thinking lady I've been practicing for over 4 years now I may not be a scholar, but I'm not stupid).  I politely inform her I do all 5 and I even do them in Arabic.  Shocked she then proceeds to ask me to recite the Fatihah for her.  I'm shocked at this point and politely let her know I have to hurry and get the kids home.

Moral here is everyone has their faults.  Having my girls in Hijab is a blessing not a sin.  So, If you are going to throw stones, just make sure your house isn't glass.

Wednesday, January 29, 2014

It's that time again, MARCH FOR BABIES TIME!

It’s that time of year again - it’s March for Babies season! We all love walking for babies, lets start by kicking off Qhamatas team fundraising. 

Every day, thousands of babies are born too soon, too small and often very sick. I'm walking in March for Babies because I want to do something about this. And I need your help.
Please support my walk. Making a secure donation is easy: just click the 'donate now' button on this page. Thank you for helping me give all babies a healthy start!
The mission of March of Dimes is to improve the health of babies by preventing birth defects, premature birth, and infant mortality.

Wednesday, January 22, 2014

Finding my way back to me!

I have been in a rut since 2009 and I'm sure if you know me or follow me you know there were 3 significant changes for me that year.  Well since then I've had 2 more beautiful children, Khalifah 3 and Israfil almost 2.  And being pregnant back to back from 2009-2012 I haven't been able to loose the weight I gained to try and help keep my kids healthy.  So as of 12/30/2013 I have made the pledge to be healthier.  Also I want to loose the weight to see if I can't scrap some of the meds I have to take for my Fibromyalgia.

So this is me as of 1/12/2014 in one of my favorite outfits my DH bought me:

I finally figured out the timer on my phone camera (tee hee) so I will do better next time.

But I will continue to update the pictures monthly (Insha'Allah) and pray that by the start of Ramadan 1435 (June 28, 2014) I will have dropped up to 40 lbs and will not feel so stuffed in the outfit above.

Here's to a healthier 1435 (2014)

World Hijab Day

Oppressed! Subjugated! These are probably the words that come to your mind when you see a Muslim woman covered in Hijab (the Islamic modest covering of a woman). You assume it’s her father or some radical male member from her family who is forcing her to dress that way. At least that is what people say to you. That is how the media views Muslim women who cover. Let me ask you, have you heard of the famous sayings: “go straight to the source?” Or “walk a day in my shoes?” I am sure you have heard these a million times.
Let me use the first. I ask you sincerely, have you ever gone to the true source for information about Hijab and Islam?  Have you read books, asked scholars or visited a Mosque? Have you ever asked a Muslim woman why she is so covered in a world that seeks to shed as much clothing as possible?  If you asked a Muslim woman, she would inform you that the purpose behind her Hijab is to obey her Creator over the creation. Her Creator, Allah (God), did not legislate Hijab in order to oppress her, but rather to free her from the shackles of this world. He ordered Hijab as an honor and sign of dignity for women.
When a Muslim woman covers her hair, chest and body, she is sending a silent message that she respects her body and like a pearl in the ocean, she covers it with her beautiful shell (Hijab). No one has the right to observe, gawk at and judge a Muslim woman by the highlights in her hair or curves on her body. Instead they judge her for what is in her mind, her character, and her goals and ambitions.  Hijab is prevention from being accosted by ignorant minds who only judge a woman by the clothes she wears and the skin she shows. A woman’s body as you know is sacred and this is why Islam encourages women to strive to cover and protect it.
Let us return to the second saying, “Walk a day in my shoes.” This is where WHD comes in. What is that you ask? WHD is short for World Hijab Day. This second annual event will be held on February 1st, 2014 (God willing). On this day, we ask Non-Muslim and Non-Hijabi Muslim women worldwide to observe Hijab for a day. It will be a day for everyone willing to experience what it’s like to step inside the shoes of a Hijabi. Our hopes are no less than that. We wish you will gain a wealth of knowledge and experience a slightly different definition of FREEDOM.